Preferences and Experiences



This is a section for readers to send in their own experiences of, and views about, circumcision. Please, we want factual accounts, not fantasies, and while sexual matters have to be discussed we do not want 'steamy porn'. Photos are very welcome, but we will not post images of erections and for legal reasons (which we don't necessarily agree with) all contributors must be over 18.

We are starting off afresh, with all new postings, but in time we may pull out any old contributions which are still of interest. This is not a bulletin board, and is not open to discussions about the posted articles. If you want to join a discussion group we recommend the new group Intercirc - we have no formal connection but both have ancestry in the now long defunct Circlist email listserv.

We have had many contributions from men who were circumcised as adults or teenagers, and they are welcome. We understand that these will help many other men considering this issue. Nevertheless, we would really like to have a broader picture. Women's views are particularly welcome, and this discussion will be kicked off with some posts from the archives and from other internet sources. Maybe this will encourage other females to come forward.

Also, what about men who were circumcised in infancy, or who are still uncircumcised? This page exists to give you a voice too, so feel free to contribute. Don't be put off by the length of some of the items here - a couple of lines will be just as welcome. And you absolutely do NOT need to send photos of your private parts!

So, please send in your contributions to the editor Scroll down for the latest male contribution.

Here is an article on 'the circumcision dilemma' by British humorist and food writer Giles Coren. He apparently hated being circumcised as a boy but when his son was born he was so horrified by the sight of an actual foreskin it had to come off.... read on....

To stop the list becoming unwieldy, older posts have been moved to the Preferences Archive - they are still there and accessible.


Women's views

Jump to the newest post (26th July 2021)

     Yes, this is for real, not a Photoshop job. The top was sold from a now defunct Jewish website called "thatsjewtastic.com". So I guess it's not available any more. You can read a bit more about it at yoyenta.com.

Thanks to C. Hippikins for bringing it to our attention.

Lucy (UK)

The health, hygiene and appearance benefits of circumcision are well recognised by most women, but only a woman who has had the pleasure of experiencing sex with a properly (and tightly) circumcised man knows the difference which it makes to our enjoyment of intercourse! .... Read the full story

Why I share Charlotte York's struggle and sort of wish I could ask my boyfriend to get circumcised

Remember that Sex And The City episode where Charlotte makes the guy get circumcised because 'ew, it looks like a shar pei!' or those rumours about how Taylor Swift broke up with Harry Styles because he was 'uncut?' ..... Read the full story

Having a boy – must I get him circumcised?

Many people have a strong opinion about the topic, when they don't know what the benefits are. In my case not only do I personally agree with the pros, I agree that foreskin should be removed. My son had his foreskin removed when he was 2 weeks old, by a registered GMC (General Medical Council) doctor.

Sophie Moti (UK)

A Continental European viewpoint

Here in Europe, basically no one is circumcised at birth. All the men I dated before my marriage were uncircumcised. Interestingly the foreskin's morphology differs very much from man to man; in some cases the glans was fully covered even in full erection, with some of the skin protruding beyond the tip of the glans. In other cases, there was virtually no foreskin covering the glans, very much like a cut penis. The majority were almost covered fully when limp. My husband had a fairly long foreskin which would extend over the glans even when fully erect. Of course, it could be easily pulled back and I particularly liked to do that during foreplay. The feeling of the foreskin moving back and forth over the erect penis is quite stimulating for the female partner. I also liked to give small bites to the foreskin.

For me, sexual intercourse was pleasant but not terribly gratifying. It seemed to me that my husband was penetrating his own foreskin rather than my vagina. Once or twice, I discussed that with him, suggesting we should hold his foreskin back during intercourse. Obviously this was not very practical. Read the full story

How, step by step, I persuaded my partner to get circumcised.

When I met my partner,he had an extremely long foreskin. His glans was fully covered by the foreskin, even when the penis had a full erection, but he didn't have phimosis.His glans was extremely sensitive ,because the penis head was covered almost all the time and he ejaculated immediately when I exposed and touched his penis tip.... Read the full story

A British Muslim woman wonders if she could handle dating a man with a foreskin.

It was good to know that my friends were not at all phased by the fact that he was White, or that he had children. The more pressing issue I hear you ask? His foreskin. Yes, foreskin. Read the full story

After a semester in the US an English student realizes that one thing is essential in any future boyfriend.

I first learned about circumcision, as many girls do, when it was required for my brother. We are a white British family with no history of circumcision as far as I know, but it was necessary for my younger sibling because of a tight foreskin that was causing him trouble. Being too young to know any of the particulars of penile anatomy, I was both intrigued and rather shocked ..... Read the full story


Men's views

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The Editor's Story

In post-war England, when I was growing up, circumcision was very much a class thing. At my large, crowded but very good state primary school I never saw a circumcised penis - and I saw plenty of penises since most boys made sure they were seen at the urinal. There was one Jewish boy in my year but he was quite shy. (Had I known then that Jews were circumcised I might have tried to get a closer look.) My family lived at the classier end of that school's catchment, and the boy next door was circumcised - and went to a private school. I was instantly impressed with the look of his penis...... Read the full story

Photoshop circumcision

I'm uncircumcised, but considering getting done. To help me decide the style I wanted I prepared Photoshop versions of my own penis with four different circumcision styles. Steve W.
Well, Steve did get circumcised, and here is the result........ Read the full story

A German reader (of Vietnamese descent) tells of his phimosis problem

I was about 14 or 15 when I first knew that I had phimosis. There was a unit about sexual education at school and the teacher told us that at least 1 in 10 could not retract his foreskin. So I went home and tried it. And failed...... Read the full story

Circumcised at 45 - before & after photos

I was circumcised in the US with the frenulum completely removed at 45 (Oct 2015), not for any medical reasons, but by personal choice. I knew for sure I wanted to be cut very tight (what's the point of getting circumcised if you remain with some skin above your head and some movement?) so I have no extra floppy skin when flacid and absolutely no movement when erected (but not so tight so that it is painful). ...... Read the full story

19-year-old English boy tells of being an uncircumcised Protestant in primary school then a circumcised Muslim in high school

My circumcision story is far from being a typical experience for a British boy, but it is something that I know is becoming increasingly common nowadays. ........ Read the full story

Growing up circumcised in Sydney

I was circumcised at 6 weeks old, in Sydney, Australia and I'm now 29. I'm very glad I was. ..... Read the full story

I've lived with my head exposed for more than 10 years - should I now get the snip?

I am in my mid 20's and have lived more than 10 years already with my glans exposed. I pulled back my foreskin for the first time by accident when I was 7 or 8....... Read the full story

Frenulum problems in the UK

In my early twenties, I was told that I would have to be circumcised. My problem resulted from my frenulum being too short which resulted in its tearing. But I kept putting it off ..... Read the full story

Botched circumcision - and then a proper job - in the UK.

My first memory of hearing the word "circumcision" was as uttered by a GP (family doctor) in the English midlands sometime in the early 1960s. My father (deemed to be his job) had taken me to the local clinic after repeated bath time exhortations from mother, provoking much straining and tears, had failed to produce the desired result of a properly skinned back infant penis...... Read the full story

Circumcised at age 17, in the US.

My parents didn't have me circumcised because they didn't have the money and my mother was against it. My dad is, unsurprisingly, cut. I wish they had gotten me cut at birth because I really felt like the odd one out. .... Read the full story

Maltese immigrant in Australia .

I was born in Southern Europe in 1952, Malta to be precise, where circumcision is rare as in a lot of Europe. My parents immigrated to Australia when I was a toddler ...... Read the full story

Once again, PLEASE don't try a self-circ!

I don’t have older siblings and wasn’t that close to any friends, so when I was a child I didn’t have other boys to compare with, but that didn’t keep me from discovering my body on my own. When I noticed that movable piece of skin at the end of my thingy, and especially that strange head underneath the skin I became fascinated by it. ...... Read the full story

Another Russian story - Alex

In Russia, circumcision is not common without medical indications,but I always liked the look without the foreskin .I decided on circumcision at the age of 30 without having problems with the foreskin, .......... Read the full story

A long-awaited circumcision

I escaped the RIC that so many guys in my age cohort had done, by my parents decision which I'm grateful for.

I have had a lifelong fascination with male circumcision ever since my father described a gomco circumcision to me when I was a small child. I got incredibly excited at the thought of having that done to me.......

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Twice cut as an adult

I've read several letters here that sound very much like my own experiences.

I grew up with boys that were circumcised as infants and some didn't know that they weren't born that way. I always wished I had been cut as well. ....

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Scarring from a Russian circumcision

I would like to add my personal experience. I lived in Russia 20 years ago, where I was circumcised when I was 20 years old. To help healing I used Vishnevsky's ointment, which, as I read later (after moving to Israel), may promotes scarring of the suture line. ....

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Father against - mother for - one man's story

I was left intact at birth. I'm not sure why, but suspect my dad was mostly responsible. However, Dad died when I was ten, and not long afterwards, mom began to bring up the idea of me being circumcised. I had a very long foreskin, and while it retracted easily, retraction was a two handed affair when soft - not painful, just a hassle. ....

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Twice circumcised - our first report from China.

I am 24 years old from North China. I would like to share my personal experience of being twice circumcised.

The first time I discovered the concept of circumcision was from the comparison between my father, uncle, cousin and other adult men. My father has a good looking penis with high manhood, whose glans has never been covered since young. There is almost no foreskin on his cock and all of his foreskin is held back behind his sulcus all the time. ......

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Chinese boy - conflicting opinions - circumcised at 16

I don't remember much about my childhood. When I was 5 years old, my relatives advised my grandmother to have me circumcised. At that time, I didn't know what this was. I asked curiously what a foreskin was. After listening to my grandmother's explanation, I was wondering how anyone would want to get cut and bleed? ......

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English boy, circumcised at age 4, later finds his classmates following suit.

I'm a 27 year old male from the UK, I have vague memories of being naked at a beach or pool, like many other kids in the 90s, but the first proper memory with my penis was when I was about 4, I woke up with a sore penis and couldn't pee. ......

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Circumcision for converting religion - an English teenager's story.

From a young age I was interested in Islam. Eventually, I discovered that Muslim men are circumcised. This sat in the back of my mind – I thought 'aren't only Jews circumcised?' When I found this out, I asked if I would have to be circumcised after converting to Islam? .....

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